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by Egbert Sukop
Editor's Note from J. Stewart Dixon: "Here is an exercise that may change your world. Once a day, give a single dollar bill to a person you have never met, to a stranger." In the truest spirit of holiday giving I present to you this written meditation/article on money by a fellow from my neck of the woods named Egbert Sukop. I call this article a meditation because it is best to set aside some time, take a few breaths, uncross your legs and relax before you read it- you will get a lot more out of it. This article is NOT a run of the mill newage-ism about "The Secret" or "Law of Attraction" or "Abundance" In my opinion what Mr. Sukop has written here goes well beyond these ideas. GREAT GREAT gem here if you really soak it in... Here's Part TWO below. (Whole article here: http://greedschool.blogspot.com/2014/11/instant-gratification.html) See Part 1
Unless people discover the unadulterated joy of giving money to a stranger without hesitation and devoid of the slightest motive of exchange ("What's in it for me?"), they will hardly be able to receive money from strangers free of emotional complications. Don't even expect to hear a 'thank you', a friendly smile, or a nod.
Give a dollar, expect nothing, and you will discover that the act of giving becomes a reward in pure form.
Sooner or later, you will discover the true nature of giving. It may be accompanied by physical sensations, like goose bumbs. You may get a 'high' from doing it and feel elated. Well, some grouchy non-takers may treat you as if you were a thief, even though you were trying to do the opposite by trying to give them money. That, too, is important to observe.
Those who scream for money the loudest aren't necessarily willing to gracefully receive it when it's offered to them on a silver platter. Their suspicious mind searches for the catch while the opportunity evaporates.
People blabber on about unconditional love all the time. This exercise introduces the experience of unconditional money.
If you currently work relatively hard for your money and you desire to triple your income, tripling your efforts to achieve that objective would belong to the realm of self-sabotage. That linear strategy increases the probability of your destruction in the process. Cardiac arrest and another well-to-do widow are frequent results of that strategy.
Instead, think about halving your efforts while doubling your and your clientele's fun in order to double your income.
It's heresy, I know.
When you give money to a stranger who doesn't need more money, you are creating the situation you are eager to experience in reverse order. Each time you give a dollar to somebody who needs nothing, you are experiencing what other people feel when they give you more money without you being in need. You are training yourself in experiencing the pleasure of giving outside the pitfalls of reason.
Belief is only marginally superior to disbelief. Please do not believe a word I say or write. My intention is to introduce you first to the experience and then to the confidence that there is unparalleled enjoyment in the act of giving. Get that message into your bones because as an intellectual consideration it's worthless. Only when you physically do it again and again, will you have a chance to discover what I am talking about. Otherwise you'll think I am a nut. In that case, please be aware that you think of Jesus as a nutcase also ("It is more blessed to give than to receive"). Of course you are free to think of me as you wish. Jesus is used to be blamed for everything that goes wrong, anyway.
If and when you allow your giving of money to become a "blessed state," blissful even, and you notice physical and emotional expressions of joy and satisfaction, you won't need any further extrinsic motivation to continue the practice of giving. It'll be too much fun to quit. Further, you'll then know precisely how someone thinks and feels who freely and happily gives you money that you don't need. You will be able to gracefully accept that money because it will be given to you without intensifying another person's pain and without increasing your guilt. On the contrary, by giving an individual a new opportunity to hand you money, you are offering others a chance to experience additional joy.
Why would you be so cruel and limit other people's enjoyment of giving you money?
Your training will sensitize you, so you'll know exactly when any of the crucial ingredients are out of balance or missing. If someone gets upset with you, you know you may have lost touch with your joy of giving that ought to be the foundation of this interesting game. Or, you haven't clarified what this is all about. What's that? What is this about? Fun, yours and theirs. Money and this exercise, all exists for the fun of it.
Glossy magazines continue to regurgitate the age old question whether money makes people happy or not. They refer to the 'getting' of money, naturally. Psychological studies receive grants to find out the truth. Actually, it doesn't matter. The conversation is obsolete because you can discover more bliss and happiness in the giving of money, services, ideas, and goods to your fellow human beings than while you concentrate on the acquisition of things.
Give people anything and you'll experience instant satisfaction. Instant gratification is underrated. Why wait before you give others attention, smiles, warmth, laughter, service, love, kindness, patience, a listening ear, joy, your authentic presence, and yes, a handful of nasty filthy old cash? Just being with an individual can be the most precious gift you could possibly give, especially when that person experiences challenging times. Nothing you need to do, nothing you need to say, if you can just BE there it may very well be the best you have to give in your repertoire.
Frequently, people underestimate their own value and overestimate what they do or their products. If you aren't worth much, in your perspective, why would your service be any better? The truth is, some people's self-confidence is so messed up and their value system is so confused that they think the shitty job they deliver (because they hate it) is worth more money than they are worth themselves. Then they wonder why they're being paid poorly. Too bad schools teach what to think but not thinking per se.
If you have to keep your giving within reasonable parameters, your income may grow but, as I mentioned, perhaps in moderate ways only. Generosity is always beyond reason. You will never be a generous giver unless and until you are willing to gracefully receive money in amounts that are completely beyond rational understanding for onlookers. I am quite confident you will be accused of greed if you care to be truly generous, and you'll hardly be loved or win friends by being generous.
For the purpose of causing exponential growth, I suggest you leave the realm of reason behind: start giving for no reason. Giving what? Your enjoyment, for instance. What exactly do you do when you and everybody around you knows "you are in your element?" Your spouse and your in-laws maybe annoyed as hell when you are in 'the zone' and your kids ran out of the room half an hour ago because they saw the tsunami building up. However, the same character trait or even flaw that bores your husband to tears could be an untapped goldmine if it is permitted to see the light of day. Strangers may pay you for odd things you enjoy doing, for abilities, and skills that your family seeks to smother in you.
Now, you don't have to wrap bottles in roadkill and fill them with beer that contains 55% alcohol, so you have an outrageously unique product to offer. You think I am off the rocker? See for yourself at brewdog.com
If you feel the need to fit in nicely, please pee in a cup, get a job, and do what you despise doing. Since you are receiving this newsletter though, I assume you have opted otherwise. We are swiftly moving into the territory of future issues of the Greed School newsletter but I shall give you a glimpse of it anyway:
Employee consciousness and entrepreneurial consciousness differ. "What do I have to do, so I get paid?" is a typical state of mind for employees. It works, poorly, but the same approach taken by a self-employed person can be devastating. As a temporary fix to bridge financial difficulties, this thought can be helpful and bring relief relatively fast. Sell a couple of items that you no longer need on eBay, for instance, and you'll have some extra money within a week or ten days. The same route pursued long term as a business model is fraught with similar challenges as you'll find on jobs.
The average self-employed person makes less money than the average employee. The average self-employed individual is still happier than the average employee but nevertheless, it's a myth that self-employment is a guarantee for a lavish income. The potential for self-determined income improvement is inherent but "mo' money" is absolutely not an automatic result of switching from employment to self-employment.
"What would I have to do, so I make money?" is a losing business proposition because it's focused on getting money and pushing you or your employees toward another threshold of pain. Money-motivated activities may bring in some money while depriving you of everything else you desire. It can be a disastrously limiting approach and the money you may be making this way is bound to slip through your fingers and evaporate like water.
For example, ask yourself: "What thoroughly enjoyable activity of mine has the potential to make other people's lives easier, richer, deeper, more fun, or more colorful? You may discover a personal asset of yours that can easily be converted to cash in the entire spectrum between weird and wacky on one end and breathtakingly dull and ordinary on the other.
What matters is that both "being" authentically you and "doing" merge, so it's nearly effortless and you lose your sense of time. When what you do is "so you" that you do it anyway whether you get paid or not, you may have a winner.
Instant gratification! That's why. You may have to have a little patience to collect money but you will have all the fun you could possibly have from the first minute and you will not stop Friday afternoon at 5 pm. This utilizes the joy of giving as your sheer limitless intrinsic motivational resource. Inventing new products, services, or ideas you can introduce to potential buyers has nothing to do with effort in this case. You'll do it naturally for your own pleasure and entertainment.
The receiving of money becomes the aftermath of your joyful, blessed, giving. The exchange of money is now the icing on top instead of the initial reason to do business or to work.
Money needs to be stripped of meaning, and so do giving and receiving. When you conduct your business affairs playfully--think of a sandlot, of marbles, toys, and friends--there is no room for pain, emotional threats, and exhaustion.
Connect giving and receiving with effort, and you'll limit what you are willing to give and what you can receive. On the other hand, when giving other people money turns into fun for you, why would you want to limit your income or somebody else's fun?
"How do I make more money?" is an outdated question. "How do I start a revolution this week?" is a different approach of what you may enjoy to give.
The question, "What do I need to do in order to generate money?" means that the way you live right now is a constant and remarkably successful effort to prevent people from giving you money. Suppression of one's individuality, the belief that a person's variance equals worthlessness, spineless addiction to other people's approval, desire to belong no matter what, obsession of self-punishment and unconscious self-sabotage.....the laundry list of money repellent behavior has no limits, just as its elimination can lead to income without limitations.
Your pleasure does not need to be financed. Instead, your pleasures ought to become resources of your financial success, giving you money on top of the pleasure you've had already.
Then, why ask for money at all?
Why have sex if you don't plan to make babies?
When the 'why' is out the window, your last hesitation of receiving money will be gone and you will be able to take it without connecting it to any reason, emotion, or event. Trust me, you will take it. You will not let it rot or allow for it to collect dust. When its last idea of meaning has dissipated, you will be able to give and take money from a state of utmost innocence and purity.
Money becomes most precious when all its meaning has disappeared. A paradox? On first sight perhaps. Think about it for a day, and you'll see different layers of seemingly opposing ideas. When you leave the "meaning of money within your thoughts" behind, you will be able to discover the vast and precious nature of money that exists exclusively "between your thoughts."
Indeed, you could be playing other games than the 'money game'. It is at this junction that asking for money becomes a choice and is based on freedom. When money is no longer a necessity, asking for it will no longer be perceived as a threat by the individual you ask for money and the immanent potential of emotional blackmail is eliminated from your negotiations. Extract the meaning, and you diminish perception of potential danger or emotional displeasure that other people connect with your interest in their money. They, too, see that you "could be playing other games" but you are doing it for the fun of it and for them because you chose to play with them.
Freedom has become the foundation of the game, replacing need and desperation, or the raw violence of ambition.
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About the Author
Born and raised in Germany, Egbert Sukop has studied Psychology and Lutheran Protestant Theology. Egbert has over 20 years of experience as a public speaker. His provocative seminars address imponderables: death, the cantankerous nature of money, and uncompromising happiness. His main objective is to promote the extreme expansion and enjoyment of your individuality.