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My Happiness is Not Dependent Upon My Expectations
by Silvia Mordini
Editor's Note: One of many things we learn in yoga is to practice "non-attachment". This means not being attached to something sad, happy, enjoyable, etc. Have and feel the emotions as they are happening, but don't take them with you or keep looking to have them again, for the same reasons, in the future. This includes having expectations...when you get attached to how you think something will turn out was supposed to be, it can affect you...instead practice non-attachment.
March 1, 2013. I've been teaching class on Friday nights for 10 years now. Hard to believe as the time has flown by. The reason I keep teaching on Friday's is because more than any other day it is a day of recapitulation to make way for a more easeful weekend.
It takes practice not to leak the events of the week into the weekend by judging them, evaluating them, comparing one week to the next and exhausting ourselves with over analysis. On our Friday practice I ask that we relax our expectations. Come to the mat and don't try to solve anything don't even try to resolve something.
Focused inward another name for expectation is Self-Judgment. This critical prism of judging ourselves in advance of the outcome and again with the result only brings more disappointment. And what we practice towards ourselves we project outwardly too which results in putting heavy expectations on others as well.
We would do well to heed the advice of Eckhart Tolle in the Power of Now who writes: “To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness. This state is then no longer dependent upon things being in a certain way, good or bad. It seems almost paradoxical, yet when your inner dependency on form is gone, the general conditions of your life, the outer forms, tend to improve greatly.”
Practice this mantra: May I see things clearly without making my happiness dependent upon my expectations.
Love yourself, love your day, love your life! Silvia
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Silvia Mordini is a motivational speaker, writer, life coach and entrepreneur. Enthusiasm to love your life is contagious around Silvia. Her expert passion connects people to their own joyful potential. Silvia lives her happiness in such a big way that you can’t help but leave her classes, workshops, trainings and retreats spiritually uplifted! Being a citizen of the world and spiritual adventurer is in her blood. Born in Ecuador, raised traveling around the world she is an enthusiastic friend gatherer who loves to discuss happiness psychology, poetry, travel and philosophy. She is a long-time Experienced Yoga Teacher (E-RYT) with over 9,500 hours of yoga teaching experience who has been practicing yoga over the last 15 years after being run over by a car and using it to recover physically and emotionally. Silvia, a lululemon ambassador and manduka ambassador, is the creator of Alchemy of Yoga, a nationally recognized RYT200 Hour Yoga Teacher Training (Self-Study) Program. She also founded Alchemy Tours which allows her to lead inspired Yoga Retreats all over the world. Silvia is currently writing a book and has a popular blog called Loving Your Life, along with producing her “Loving Your Day” videos.
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