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How to Cultivate Unconditional Love and Forgiveness
by Barbara-Lynn Freed



Editor´s Note from David Arenson: As human beings we are challenged to bridge the gap between our physical needs and experiences and our spiritual yearnings. How do we bridge the gap between personal love and unconditional love? Founder and Facilitator of The Center for Transformational Studies, Barbara-Lynn Freed explores these questions from her own unique experiential standpoint.


As human beings we are challenged to bridge the gap between are physical needs and experiences and our spiritual yearnings. How do we bridge the gap between personal love and unconditional love?

Personal Love is the deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection we have toward people, pets, or treasured items in our lives.

Often used as a term of endearment, we usually see personal love as an intense, emotional attachment or attraction to those we care about. With personal love we can lapse into our lower emotions and hold grudges against others, or concentrate on suffering. In doing so we hinder the effectiveness of our love in relationships, as well as, our own wellbeing.

However, if we allow ourselves to focus on Divine or Unconditional Love, we can learn to look at our glass of life, as being half full, instead of being half empty. In this way we can learn to transform our lower emotions of anger, jealousy, envy and greed into something positive.

Pure, Unconditional Love, works without expectation, or attachment to the outcome, and asks for nothing in return. It's radiant light can resist and overcome every other energy it encounters, for it is the binding force of the universe.

How do we bridge the gap between Personal Love and Unconditional Love? The first step in this mighty process is learning how to love and accept yourself for who you are.

The second step is to expect love in your life, in all your relationships, and with everyone else you encounter. Here we must remember the Universal Law that says energy follows thought. If we think it, it will happen!

Finding goodness in others will help you achieve your own goals, by attracting the same to you.

The third step is to work for the highest good of all, by surrendering all your expectations to Spirit (or your favorite Divine Diety).


For sure, you will need to do an enormous amount of inner work to find true, Unconditional Love in your life. However, an exercise I have found most valuable in shifting my vibration and consciousness is to silently or verbally chant 'Divine Love' for five minutes to an indefinite amount of time.

You will be amazed at how quickly your mood shifts to one of peace, and the outcome of any situation becomes favorable to all concerned. When we have Love in our heart, life becomes a joy to behold!

The act of Forgiveness helps us to develop and nourish Love in our lives.

Releasing blame and judgment of others is imperative to succeed, for Forgiveness is a spiritual initiative grounded in the humility of accepting that we don't always need to be right.

When we use our emotions or intellect as a rational explanation to forgive, we fail to see the very essence of what we are trying to achieve.

Forgiveness, being born from the heart, and not from the head, can teach us that we are all reflections of each other. In this way, we use the spiritual energy of Love to assess our relationships by looking for similarities in people, rather than differences.



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About the Author

Barbara-Lynn Freed is the Founder and Facilitator of the Center for Transformational Studies where she teaches clients and students how to heal their core issues and reconnect with nature.  Barbara-Lynn also sees clients in her 18-year old Awakening the Heart! Spiritual Healing practice, and has recently developed a three-year, cross-cultural shamanic apprenticeship. In 1993 she was ordained as an Alliance of Divine Love, interfaith Minister, reflecting her love for helping people understand the mysteries and challenges in their lives.  Learn more about her programs at www.TransformationalStudies.com, or she can be directly reached at (919) 942-7754





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