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It’s Nothing Personal
Stay Calm and Confident in Any Situation
by Lisa McCourt
Imagine how different your life would be if you truly did not worry about what anyone else thought of you. Taking any comment or action personally puts you in a position of reactionary judgment –you feel judged by someone so you judge that person back by being offended.
Judgment never feels good (the giving or the getting of it) so I developed a meditative exercise to help my Juicy Joy students break the reactionary habit of taking things personally. Once you practice it a little you can apply it in situations that might normally inspire judgment. It’s great to slip into when you’re entering a work situation or social situation where you don’t feel completely comfortable, or when you sense there could be some kind of antagonism toward you – with difficult family members or a tense office environment, for example. Try it on for size:
1. Get comfortable, take a few deep, luxurious breaths, and allow your mind to become quiet and peaceful.
2. Imagine that you are a deep-sea diver. You are completely safe in your diver-gear and you love this hobby of yours. You are passionate about exploring marine life and coral. You relish the tranquil, no-sound zone of the undersea world, so rich with things to discover and appreciate.
3. If the thought of this feels at all scary to you, take whatever imaginary precautions you need to invent to let you feel that this experience is indisputably safe in every way. Put up an imaginary force-field around you; or put yourself in a clear bubble that is completely impenetrable. This is your imagination so make sure you are supremely protected and relaxed.
4. Notice all the beautiful colors, all the interesting creatures. Some fish are charming and adorable and others are intimidating looking, with long pointy teeth and bug-eyes, but you welcome them all with equal fascination and curiosity.
5. You can wonder how a fish got that way, or you can mentally compare its features with other fish you’ve seen. But there’s no reason to fear or feel threatened by any of them. You love and appreciate them all equally because observing fascinating creatures and scenery is what you’ve come down here to do. Some might even present obstacles for you but that’s just an exciting adventure to the deep-sea diver.
6. Keep saying to yourself, “How interesting!” about the lovely and graceful creatures, about the menacing and shocking ones. You’re so, so safe and joyful, floating in your undersea world.
If you practice this mini-meditation for just a few minutes each day, you’ll be able to start accessing that feeling when you need it in your life. The grouchy landlord, the demeaning boss, the nagging friend, the insulting parent—they all become simply interesting fishies! They’re all on their own paths, and you’re on yours and you can appreciate all the fascinating perspectives they allow you to contemplate.
Appreciation cancels judgment. And freeing yourself from judgment will keep you in vibrational alignment with everything you want to bring into your life.
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About the Author
Unconditional love expert Lisa McCourt is a dynamic speaker, seminar leader and author whose 34 books have sold more than 5.5 million copies worldwide. Her new book, Juicy Joy – 7 Simple Steps to Your Glorious, Gutsy Self, teaches people to embrace "radical authenticity" to fully experience unbridled joy in life. Lisa lives in South Florida with her two children. For more information, visit www.LisaMcCourt.com.