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Finding a Trusted, Spiritual Teacher
by Eden Kozlowski
ATH Co-Editor of Meditation



When embarking on a spiritual path, one of the most critical decisions is your choice (and connection) with a teacher. Let’s go first here to an excerpt from Jack Kornfield’s book, A Path With a Heart, as he as he explains the hard work behind true, spiritual soul searching: “Many people first come to spiritual practice hoping to skip over their sorrows and wounds, the difficult areas of their lives... Some spiritual practices actually do encourage this and teach ways of accomplishing this through intense concentration and ardor that bring about states of rapture and peace... While such practices have their value, an inevitable disappointment occurs when they end, for as soon as practitioners relax in their discipline, they again encounter all the unfinished business of the body and heart that they had hoped to leave behind.”


Ah, this “unfinished business." These painful blocks of emotional and physical energy exist in everyone and most of these impediments stem from the hurt of past relationships. So, what better way to conquer these relationship pains than surrendering to a total, trusting relationship of another person. So, the first part of your own personal healing is allowing those intimate and tender pieces of you to be placed in the loving, caring hands of someone else. Having the strength and courage to do this is the beginning, as healing at this level cannot and should not be done alone. This trust... this letting go... is huge–this IS spiritual growth. As Jack says it, “A healthy relationship with a teacher serves as a model for trust in others, in ourselves, in our bodies, in our intuitions, our own direct experience. It gives us a trust in life itself. Teachings and teacher become a sacred container to support our awakening.”


When I first started my journey, I wasn’t necessarily attracted to meditation but more to the wonderful things I had heard about my soon-to-be teacher. My love of the practice itself fell out of my own experiences and the openness I allowed myself to have in her and myself. Our work was also done in a group setting. So, not only did I have to have faith in my teacher but also in the other people in my class. To trust them with personal information–many things that I had never told anyone else–things I would have never thought I would say out loud, much less to a crowd. This is also true for the people who now attend my classes. In our group work... we create a family. A family that is so functional, so supportive, so non-judgmental, so caring. A representation of how the world can be... of how trust and acceptance can be. When we experience that, we can’t help but carry it forward.


In this wonderful cycle, we also truly discover "love"... which, at the end of the day, is what we are striving for whether consciously or unconsciously. If we love ourselves enough to let someone else really love and care for us, then we complete the circle. Finding a teacher who captures this willingness to accept everything about us ‘tis the key. That, in turn, allows us to accept ourselves, warts and all. And then allows us to see that the warts really weren’t warts at all.



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About the Author

Eden Kozlowski's passion is to move people into the authenticness of their being and help them take full responsibility for their lives and health. 

is founder/CEO of her dynamic meditation/mindfulness-based company out of Akron, Ohio USA – Just Be, LLC as well as Co-Editor on the meditation page at All Things Healing. Formerly an advertising creative director and VP out of Atlanta, Georgia, Eden gives spiritual, motivational, energetic and intuitive counsel as a speaker, teacher and Reiki Master. Practicing now for over a decade, she started as a six-year student of Dr. Neala Peake’s (Co-Founder of ATH). She holds weekly classes, retreats and private sessions in person and via skype as well as conducting sessions in mindfulness and wellness at corporate settings. Contact Eden at edenk@allthingshealing.com or justbemeditation@gmail.com. Visit her website at justbemeditation.com, on Facebook at www.facebook.com/JustBeMeditation or on Twitter at twitter.com/JustBeMeditate.

See her interviews on ATH with 
Dr. Judith Orloff, psychiatrist and NY Times best-selling author; Sona Mehring, Founder and CEO of Caring Bridge; and Sarah McLean, the "face of mainstream meditation."


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